Myles passed away early this morning. He started having trouble with his breathing yesterday and it got progressively worse throughout the day. We believe he developed a blood clot in his leg that moved to his lungs. He was given morphine to relax his lungs so his body wouldn't feel starved for air. He was very calm, dozed a little, but his mind was generally clear and he understood us when we talked to him.
The kids came to hospice for dinner as usual and all got a chance to say goodnight/goodbye when we left. Myles smiled and was aware and understood what we said. He was not in pain and he was not scared.
Myles's two childhood best friends stayed the night at hospice so I could be at home with the kids, as they have done almost every other night for the past month. They were with Myles when he passed away, and for that, I am so grateful.
This Friday, February 7th, there will be a celebration of Myles's life at Congregation Shearith Israel at 10am followed by a graveside service at 12:30. Details will be posted later today at www.jewishfuneralcare.com.
Thanks to all of you for your love, prayers, and support.
- Marcie and the kids
Myles leaves such a legacy of love, determination and integrity. Blessings to all of you.
ReplyDeleteMarcie,
ReplyDeleteMy deepest sympathy for the loss of your loving husband....father of your children...friend to many and to his family.
May Miles rest comfortably and watch his family from up above. You are in my prayers as you began mourning the terrible loss of Myles. God bless you all.
Marcie, Donna and I are so saddened by this post. Like many others we have followed through laughter and sorrow via this important blog, and have become better humans because of Myles, you, and your kids. For that we cannot thank you both enough. I will forever have Myles as one of our most important life mentors. His final post could not have been more accurate. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family now and into the future. Bless you Marcie.
ReplyDeleteDear Marcie, I am saddened by the news of Myles' passing. What a fight he put up and what an inspiration to one and all with his blogs and, most of all, his last posting. He has a lot to be proud of, a lot to take with him. May the knowledge he is now whole and without the mortal challenge be of great comfort to you and the children in the days to come. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Best wishes
ReplyDeleteI will always have wonderful memories of Myles from camp to BBYO! Anyone who knew him in any way should feel blessed. To his family and friends, it's with a heavy heart that I say I am very sorry for your loss. He was obviously loved by many but no more than you all! He was a lucky man!
ReplyDeleteSending love prayers and hugs to your family and children.. What I knew of Myles was clearly that he was loved and has a living legacy of good family or friends to carry on his name and energy
ReplyDeleteI knew Myles. I worked for him, learned from him. But that was before I saw the grace and sublime wit through the imminent challenges and his continual display of strength in despair. My respect for him reaches to my children. The loss is felt with my family. There are so few people you meet who become what you wanted to achieve, without solicitation and affectation, whose esteem meant so much, whose honesty equaled his commitment to both the great and the insignificant. Our prayers are with you Marcie and your incredible sons and daughter. I’m blessed to have known him. He will be greatly missed.
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful Family! A family is for Eternity! Our prayers, sincerest love and hugs are with you Marcie and the children through this unknowing time and journey. What a WONDERFUL MAN, HUMAN BEING Mr. Myles will be remembered for. We have the most respect for Mr. Myles, for you, for your Family as a whole. Your Bond, Your Fight and Unity is so strong...The WHOLE World would be a better place if we could all have been blessed to have known Mr. Myles and his Family. He talked highly and proudly of all the Children and you Marcie. If we all started living our lives a .10% of how Mr. Myles lived his, this World would be better! He was quite wise and witty with his words and would make you have an ah ha moment and a "gotcha" moment before you knew what hit ya! He found humor in EVERYTHING in his own "Be so Kind" way I always would say. If his wishes were to "try and keep life as normal as can be", keep it as normal as we can we shall try. You are greatly missed Mr. Myles, ALWAYS will be thought of. Your memory, Legacy lives on. We have been so blessed to have known and worked with such a man, you touched us ALL!, David and Sandy (Malia, Bella, Jennifer, Brandon, Tiffany, Caleb)
ReplyDeleteDear Marcie, Adam, Josh and Allie
ReplyDeleteI have been thinking about Myles so much over these past few weeks and the years that we were room mates when we were young and Myles was good looking.
First, I am glad that we didn't have facebook as many of the times we had (think Irish bars) are not to be told until everyone is over 21. This includes the stories about Myles and Marcie's first working together (did not get along so well).
Myles will always be a symbol of strength, dignity and humor to me.
He also touched me in a very long-lasting way (not a priest sort of way) way back at the J M Tull School of accounting. Myles and I were friends and both in an accounting club (exciting sounding, I know). Anyway, Myles got me involved in Toastmasters as he saw the importance of communication and public speaking even then. Believe me, he was already attempting humor back then. Those experiences had a big impression on me as he helped teach me a lot about speaking and getting ideas across which led to other opportunities. I then of course turned on Myles when it came time to run for president of said accounting club and beat him by being Hugo Chavez with promises of wild parties while Myles was more statesman like. It was UGA in the '80s after all.
I have shed a lot of tears these past weeks and will miss Myles deeply but always with many, many happy and fun memories and a smile at his great humor. Love, Stuart
My Heart, Prayers and Love go out to you and your beautiful family!! Our family lost my niece Taylor 2 1/2 years ago at the age of 19 to brain cancer..Today, the 5th would have been her 22nd Birthday...I hope she can greet your husband in the spirit world and give him comfort in his passing! Take care and know you are lifted up in your loss!!
ReplyDeletePrayers for you all at this difficult time. How lucky for Myles to have loved and been loved by so many. His insight and humor with adversity has been a blessing for so many. May you find comfort in your ever lasting memories. Holly Gray Morgan
ReplyDeleteSending you our deepest sympathies, Marcie! I will continue to pray for you and your family.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry Marcie for you and your family.
ReplyDeleteMuch love to your family. Adam, Josh, and Ali, you're always in my heart.
ReplyDeleteDear Marcie, I am deeply sadden to hear of the passing of Myles. While I didn't know him personally I now know of the legacy he leaves. One truly to be admired and remembered. Please know that I will continue to keep you and your family in constant prayer.
ReplyDeleteTo Miles, Marcy and your family!
ReplyDeleteAt the end of high school, Miles and I went on a road trip to my future college. He was interested, too. For 48 hours, it was just him and me with wide open eyes checking things out. We were friends. I thank him for stepping into life with me.
I run with you. Your breeze: my breath.
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Marcie, I knew you from your time at Cliff Valley and AMIS. I am deeply saddened to hear about your husband's passing, but so very glad he had so much to take with him as he indicated in his last post. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family. -Carmen Butler
ReplyDeleteMarcie & Family,
ReplyDeleteWe are so sorry to hear about this news. Myles was a blogger for IHadCancer and it was always a pleasure to work with him. Every single one of his blog posts was filled with advice, support and humor. We hope that you know just how positively he affected cancer survivors, fighters and supporters everywhere. He's left a legacy of laughter that will certainly be remembered.
Our whole team will be thinking of you and your family during this time.
Sending you strength,
Emily & The IHadCancer.com Team
Marcie,
ReplyDeleteI don't know you and I never met Myles, but I read about Myles last night on the FB page, Stupid Cancer" and I spent the two hours after I read the announcement reading every post on this blog
I am in awe of the strength and the courage that you, the children and especially Myles, exhibited during his battle. As I finished reading I was left not feeling depressed (as we fellow warriors are wont to do) or grieving, but admiring of the grace and dignity that all of you showed.
As someone who is exactly where Myles was 5 1/2 - 6 years ago, thank you for that gift.
Pamela